The Dos and Don’ts of Bridal Registries

Weddings are full of traditions and the bridal registry is one of those. This registry specifies what it is the bride and groom needs for their new home. But while registries are customary, they reside in a tricky area of wedding customs, as many couples are hesitant about what they should add to their registries, while others don’t have a registry at all. If you are not certain about the proper bridal registry etiquette, then here are some dos and don’ts to help you:

Do Not do These Things:

  • Don’t go overboard on the number of registries you have. Go for two or three of your favorite stores at the most. That way people are not confused and put off by the number of items that you are requesting.
  • Don’t force the registry on the guests. Some of them may have an idea of something they would like for you to have. The guests are the ones that can make the decision of what to give you. Surprise gifts can be a lot of fun and produce a lot of excitement.
  • Don’t send your thank you notes via email or call to say thank you. You want to send your thank you notes the old school way and that is through snail mail.
  • Don’t close the registry early. In fact, you want to leave it open for a few weeks after the wedding or when you get back from your honeymoon. There may be guests who want to buy gifts after the fact.
  • Don’t feel bad if you don’t want a registry. You don’t have to have one if you don’t want it.

Do These Things:

  • Make a list of the things that you need before making the registry. Look at what you have and what you need so you can make an accurate list.
  • Make sure the registry is created in a timely fashion. It should be in place four to six months before the wedding so that guests have enough notice.
  • Include what you need including traditional and non-traditional items. Your grandma may feel better about buying you a crock pot than an outdoor stove so you and your new spouse can enjoy a camping trip. However, a guest who is into buying non-traditional things may be all about buying that outdoor camping stove.
  • Make sure a wide range of price ranges are covered so all budgets are taken into consideration.
  • Add more gifts to the registry than what you really need. This gives your guests a wide range of options to choose from, including individual items and sets.
  • Review the registry every few weeks and then more often as you get close to the wedding. This will enable you to add more gift ideas if they are needed.
  • Both of you should write your thank you notes as soon as possible.

There are a few things you can get away with when it comes to your registry, such as including the details with the invitations in a separate insert with the invitations. In lieu of a registry, you can ask for gift cards or for money to be donated to a honeymoon or house fund.